Am I suicidal?
The number one cause of suicidal thoughts is depression, or persistent feelings of sadness or loss of interest. Suicidal thoughts can come to anyone, anywhere, any time, and at any age.
These thoughts and feelings often affect your energy, concentration, behavior, sleep, appetite, and self-esteem.
Depression is biological and psychological. Talk about your thoughts and feelings. As devastating as depression can feel, it is also highly treatable. Speaking up can save a life.
Is someone else suicidal?
Sometimes it’s hard to know when a loved one is in danger. It’s helpful to stay informed about situations that may lead to crisis and know a few warning signs.
Warning signs
- Feeling lonely or alone
- Expressing concerns about being a burden, e.g., “Everyone would be better off without me”
- Discussing death or suicide, e.g., “I wish I could just go to sleep and not wake up,” “I don’t want to live anymore”
- Feeling hopeless or as though there is no reason to live, e.g., “What’s the point? Nothing matters,” “I only make things worse”
- Saying goodbyes, e.g. “I’m sorry,” “Thank you,” “I love you”
What to do if you see warning signs
Ask questions. Be direct. Start the conversation to find out how urgent and severe the danger is. This important dialogue can save a life.
- I haven’t seen you smile in a while—you OK?
- You seem down—how can I help?
- I saw your post. What’s going on?
- I can tell something’s on your mind. What’s up?
- I haven’t seen you around. You been doing OK?
It’s OK to ask someone if they are thinking about killing themselves and if they have a plan. Being direct without judging is the best thing you can do for someone in need. Asking questions does not put the idea in their head or make it any more likely that they will attempt suicide. Asking questions allows you to establish trust and helps you make sure they are safe until you can get further help.
NEVER leave someone alone who is in active crisis. Remove any objects that could be used in a suicide attempt.